Can we be lovers and not have sex?

Brentan Schellenbach, posted by elephantjournal.com, “For me, sharing sex with someone requires a certain alignment, and I do not take that lightly. My sex requires that I can possibly foresee living with a person and combining all my stuff with all of their stuff (and I mean physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual stuff—the stuff that just feels heavy if it’s not the right

Esther Perel: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic (Podcast)

“Is there something inherent in commitment that deadens desire? Can we ever maintain security without succumbing to monotony? The real questions are these: Can we have both love and desire in the same relationship over time? How? What exactly would that kind of relationship be?” <snip> “What is it about sexual betrayal that seems to

Let’s Talk About Sex (and our teens)!

When you were a teenager did you seek out advice and information about sex from your parents?  Were your parents a primary source of guidance and comfort for you with issues regarding your sexual practices and behavior?  Did you talk to them about masturbation?  Did you discuss how far you were “going” on dates?  Were

Becoming Lovers Again

As a Couples Intimacy Coach, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives.  As young, sexually active adults, we take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections (nipples, clitoris, penis) and lubrication. In our minds we link these physical