I am a long-time student of Transactional Analysis and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). I’ve studied with Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, and was mentored for many years by Stan Dale, the founder of Human Awareness Institute (HAI). I have a certification in hypnotherapy. I am also a certified instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training (PET) and I offer training and conflict resolution for parents. I’ve designed and led hundreds of workshops, support groups, and leadership trainings worldwide. I am available to support you in person, by telephone, or in online video sessions.
chasaugust has written 64 posts for Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling

Toxic Relationship Patterns

Here’s a good write up about relationship behaviors that may seem normal but are actually toxic. Writer Mark Manson has the insight that “many unhealthy relationship habits are baked into our culture.” He focuses on “six of the most common tendencies in relationships that many couples think are healthy and normal, but are actually toxic … Continue reading

Do You Play The Blame Game?

Here’s a terrific short video – and an important reminder to anyone who has ever loved (by which I mean everyone :)). Inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behavior. Watch the Video Brené Brown studies human connection … Continue reading

An Open Letter to Anyone Looking for Love.

Here’s a link to a terrific essay I saw on by Zach Beach titled “An Open Letter to Anyone Looking for Love.” Beach’s essay pushes back against the notions of “true love” our culture feeds us.  Instead of searching for the “one” Beach suggests seeing and embracing all the love that surrounds us if we … Continue reading

Living Your Life in F*ck Yes!

Here’s a provocative blog that begins with the question “Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?” Mark Manson, the blogger, convincingly makes the argument that “both you and the other person need to be fuck yes about something, otherwise you’re just wasting your time.“   “The … Continue reading

Fifteen Things for When the World is Shitty and Terrifying.

As we all struggle with the terrible reality of violent, angry, deadly attacks, day after day, here are little things we can do for ourselves and for our world to make things a tiny bit less terrible.  Here’s the link: I am particularly liked 1, 4 and 9, and I often return the shopping carts … Continue reading

I Promise to Touch You

Here are beautiful vows, by Andy Charrington, that speak to our longing, our need for loving touch. If I ever marry again, I’d want my vows to be something like this. I promise that I will always try to see you. That even when our bodies bend and our hands wrinkle, I will still see … Continue reading

Studying Love Scientifically

Here’s an article about John and Julie Gottman and their attempt to actually mine data to learn how to make long-term relationship grow and thrive. Continue reading


Many of us wondered if we would live to see this day, the day the US Government would support what has come to be called marriage equality – the idea that two people of the same gender, who choose to embrace all that marriage entails, have the same right to marry as two people who happen to be a man and a woman. Friday last, June 26, 2015…the Supreme Court, stated same gender couples deserve “equal dignity in the eyes of the law.” Continue reading

The Great Underwear Paradigm Shift or I See London, I See France…

I’m not sure I’ve ever actually had that thought about any guy I was looking at in real life – hey fella, your underwear is really sexy. And, because that censor that lives inside of us keeping us from blurting out every fool thought that comes to mind is defective in me, I said something like “Damn, that underwear is really sexy! What kind is it?” Continue reading

Can we be lovers and not have sex?

Brentan Schellenbach, posted by, “For me, sharing sex with someone requires a certain alignment, and I do not take that lightly. My sex requires that I can possibly foresee living with a person and combining all my stuff with all of their stuff (and I mean physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual stuff—the stuff that just feels heavy if it’s not the right … Continue reading

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