Sometimes the way we know our heart is working… is that it breaks. (Chas August) The heart breaks, because it is opening.” (Jon Bernie) Every love grows your heart and every heartbreak shows you how much. (Brian Bugh) “Hearts can break. Yes, hearts can break. Sometimes I think it would be better if we died…
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When I study the question of how to make love stay I find myself pondering 5 key concepts and their interrelationships: Love, Commitment, Freedom, Service and Joy. Service Leads to Freedom <–> Freedom Leads to Service Freedom Leads to Joy <–> Joy Leads to Freedom Joy Leads to Love <–> Love Leads to Joy Love Leads to Commitment <–> Commitment Leads…
“Is there something inherent in commitment that deadens desire? Can we ever maintain security without succumbing to monotony? The real questions are these: Can we have both love and desire in the same relationship over time? How? What exactly would that kind of relationship be?” <snip> “What is it about sexual betrayal that seems to…
I enjoy feeling some level of my sexuality all the time. To me it’s a spiritual thing, practicing staying plugged in to the basic law of attraction that pervades every part of the Universe. Sometimes my sexuality is just a hint, a whisper, and sometimes it seems to take me over, a shout. However strong…
It was a pretty typical urban scene. The setting: a weekday morning at rush hour in a Metro station in an upscale neighborhood in Washington, DC. A young guy in jeans, a long-sleeve tee shirt and a baseball cap finds a spot where there’s good foot traffic, takes out his violin, puts the case open…
What is “Jealousy”? According to Wikipedia – jealousy is about something one has and is afraid of losing, while envy refers to something one does not have and either wants to acquire or to prevent another from acquiring. Some of the feelings underlying jealousy include possessiveness, low self-esteem, anger, fear of rejection, fear of intimacy…
All too often I find myself listening to some internal voice telling me I’m not good enough, or I don’t do enough, or I didn’t try hard enough, or I’m just not enough. This internal critic has been with me for as long as I can remember. As I write this I think it sounds…
I find the philosophy of Yoga to be fascinating. As I understand it, the word Yoga means “union” – as in the union of spirit and body. While people do yoga for all kinds of reasons, the traditional goal of yoga is spiritual enlightenment. This is meant to be achieved by repeatedly performing a set…
When you were a teenager did you seek out advice and information about sex from your parents? Were your parents a primary source of guidance and comfort for you with issues regarding your sexual practices and behavior? Did you talk to them about masturbation? Did you discuss how far you were “going” on dates? Were…
No, not that F word. I’m talking about fear. We humans are also mammals, and fear powerfully affects mammals. Emotionally, fear engenders a “fight, flight or freeze” response. Physically, fear activates our adrenal glands to pump adrenalin into our blood, which triggers muscle response. We either fight harder or run faster or freeze and tremble.…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 