What is “Jealousy”? According to Wikipedia – jealousy is about something one has and is afraid of losing, while envy refers to something one does not have and either wants to acquire or to prevent another from acquiring. Some of the feelings underlying jealousy include possessiveness, low self-esteem, anger, fear of rejection, fear of intimacy…
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All too often I find myself listening to some internal voice telling me I’m not good enough, or I don’t do enough, or I didn’t try hard enough, or I’m just not enough. This internal critic has been with me for as long as I can remember. As I write this I think it sounds…
I find the philosophy of Yoga to be fascinating. As I understand it, the word Yoga means “union” – as in the union of spirit and body. While people do yoga for all kinds of reasons, the traditional goal of yoga is spiritual enlightenment. This is meant to be achieved by repeatedly performing a set…
When you were a teenager did you seek out advice and information about sex from your parents? Were your parents a primary source of guidance and comfort for you with issues regarding your sexual practices and behavior? Did you talk to them about masturbation? Did you discuss how far you were “going” on dates? Were…
No, not that F word. I’m talking about fear. We humans are also mammals, and fear powerfully affects mammals. Emotionally, fear engenders a “fight, flight or freeze” response. Physically, fear activates our adrenal glands to pump adrenalin into our blood, which triggers muscle response. We either fight harder or run faster or freeze and tremble.…
Listen: Listening is one of the sweetest gifts we can give someone. Fully receiving someone’s truth, without argument, without discussion, creates a foundation of trust and regard in any relationship. Tell the truth and say the “hard stuff”: If you think you can’t say it, then you must say it. True love requires truth-speaking. Make…
When our friends and families hear about our cancer, often they try to say something to be “helpful” or “supportive”. And all too often, in their discomfort, what gets spoken is neither helpful nor supportive. You know the kinds of advice and comments I’m talking about: …I heard about a woman who… …You just need…
One role of every life-partner is to create a caring, respectful relationship with our partner (and all whom we love), encouraging lovers and family to see you as a strong support in their experience, and encouraging them to grow and develop as separate and unique individuals. Helping Attitude There are many ways to show our…
As a personal growth coach and couple intimacy coach, and a facilitator of various love & intimacy workshops, I often meet people who tell me they are in a relationship, or are looking to find someone to start a relationship, or are ending a relationship, or have decided that relationships are just not for them. …
Perhaps the most common source of anger is our own inability to love ourselves, our self-hate. Most of us have a deep self-hatred that we created in childhood. We use much of our adult energy trying to run from or hide from or cover over these feeling of low self-esteem or low self-worth. The source…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 