Anger may unavoidable, but how can I make it less devastating? How can I cope with my anger? How can I cope with your anger? How can I cope with your anger when you direct it at me? Coping with anger is simple…but not necessarily easy. Like most things, it takes trust, some practice, and some learning. And, the better you get…
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Everyone experiences anger at one time or another. It’s not just human, it’s mammal — if you own a pet dog or cat or horse you’ve likely seen your pet get angry (at you or at another animal or, perhaps, at a visit to the vet). Even though anger is a natural, normal emotional experience,…
I can’t solve my partner’s problems. Even if I’m sure I know what they should do. And my partner can’t solve my problems, no matter how much I wish they could. Can you notice the ways you try to get your partner to “fix” you? Are you aware of the times your partner is making…
As a Couples Intimacy Coach, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives, many in their fifties and sixties. As young, sexually active adults, we take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections (nipples, clitoris, penis) and lubrication. In…
From Rosalind Wiseman’s “Queen Bees and Wannabes” 1. Apologizer must have a genuine understanding of the “crime.” 2. Talk about the apologizer’s actions only. 3. No “last licks” or burying another insult within the apology. 4. Given without qualification (“I wouldn’t have done it if you had just…”) 5. Apologizer and apology must be genuine.…
Small steps are always enough. –Francis of Asissi No one is any stronger or weaker than anyone else. –Sheldon Kopp When you practice waiting you get good at waiting.-Chas August There is no later. –Peter Rengel Everything in the Universe changes.-Basic Physics Nothing changes until something changes. When something changes, everything changes.-Simple Logic You are…
Sometimes it seems to me like my world is filled with victims. So very few people take personal responsibility for anything. In politics our leaders blame the opposition, blame the committee in charge, blame the voters, blame the disenfranchised. In relationships she blames him, he blames their kids, their kids blame the teachers, the teachers…
Couples frequently ask me about how to keep the passion alive, or how to rekindle it when it dies. I think there are a lot of factors at play that can cause “bed death”. Sadly, I don’t know any foolproof cure, but there are some remedies that often can make a huge difference. It seems…
As a Couples Intimacy Coach, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives. As young, sexually active adults, we take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections (nipples, clitoris, penis) and lubrication. In our minds we link these physical…
From “If you Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him” by Sheldon Kopp (1929-1999) 1. This is it. 2. There are no hidden meanings. 3. You can’t get there from here, and besides there is no place to go. 4. We are already dying, and we’ll be dead a long time. 5. Nothing lasts!…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 