As a parent you are in what Carl Rogers, author, teacher, psychologist, called a “helping relationship.” By this he meant a “relationship in which one of the parties has the intent of promoting the growth, development, maturity, improved coping with life, and improved functioning of the other”. When you are looking for help and support…
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For you amusement and edification, here’s a short list of my favorite text acronyms. Enjoy! GNBLFY: Got Nothing But Love For You IFLY: I Freaking Love You MTLA: My True Love Always TTYAWFN: Talk To You A While From Now PITMEMBOAM: Peace In The Middle East My Brother Of Another Mother DYFM: Dude You Fascinate Me POTATO: People Over Thirty Acting…
One way that my lover and I keep our love alive is through our conversations. We talk about everything. We talk about the weather, current events, books we’re reading, friends we have in common, friends our partner hasn’t met or doesn’t know well, the kids, work, everything. We talk about things we’re afraid to talk…
Occasionally I’m invited to speak to high school kids about sex and sexuality. I love it. Usually the kids have a fairly good understanding of the basics of reproduction – men have seed which they deposit in women, conception occurs when seed fertilizes egg, etc. What they lack is good solid information about sex, sexual…
“Ask for one hundred percent of what you want, One hundred percent of the time. Be willing to hear no, And negotiate for a win/win.” -Stan Dale Powerful words. Often we ask for some of what we want some of the time. Occasionally we ask for one hundred percent of what we want. Sometimes we…
Sometimes the way we know our heart is working… is that it breaks. (Chas August) The heart breaks, because it is opening.” (Jon Bernie) Every love grows your heart and every heartbreak shows you how much. (Brian Bugh) “Hearts can break. Yes, hearts can break. Sometimes I think it would be better if we died…
When I study the question of how to make love stay I find myself pondering 5 key concepts and their interrelationships: Love, Commitment, Freedom, Service and Joy. Service Leads to Freedom <–> Freedom Leads to Service Freedom Leads to Joy <–> Joy Leads to Freedom Joy Leads to Love <–> Love Leads to Joy Love Leads to Commitment <–> Commitment Leads…
“Is there something inherent in commitment that deadens desire? Can we ever maintain security without succumbing to monotony? The real questions are these: Can we have both love and desire in the same relationship over time? How? What exactly would that kind of relationship be?” <snip> “What is it about sexual betrayal that seems to…
I enjoy feeling some level of my sexuality all the time. To me it’s a spiritual thing, practicing staying plugged in to the basic law of attraction that pervades every part of the Universe. Sometimes my sexuality is just a hint, a whisper, and sometimes it seems to take me over, a shout. However strong…
It was a pretty typical urban scene. The setting: a weekday morning at rush hour in a Metro station in an upscale neighborhood in Washington, DC. A young guy in jeans, a long-sleeve tee shirt and a baseball cap finds a spot where there’s good foot traffic, takes out his violin, puts the case open…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 