A friend recently referred to something she’d read that claimed, on average, men think about sex once every 23 seconds (or something like that). I went looking online to see if there was any research to support this claim and found that Snopes.com thinks it’s an urban legend. The Kinsey Institute studies such things and…
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What is Shame? Where does it come from? Why do we feel it? How can I free myself from the paralyzing effect of my shame? Let’s start with some defining. Shame is an emotion (or feeling), and emotions are fundamentally not rational, that is to say, not derived from logic or reasoning. While thoughts may…
As a Relationship Counselor/Coach and workshop leader, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples in their fifties and sixties who are struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives. When we are young, sexually active adults, we tend to take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections…
I teach sexuality, intimacy and love for a living – in workshops, in private coaching sessions, online with my blog and podcast, and at various trainings and events. And, I am a divorced, dating Dad. Getting back into the dating world after a relationship breakup seemed overwhelming at first. Trying to meet people, having the…
Afrikaans – Ek het jou lief Albanian – Te dua Arabic – Ana behibak (to male) Arabic – Ana behibek (to female) Armenian – Yes Kez Sirumem Bambara – M’bi fe Basque (Spain) – Maite zaitut Belarusian – Ya tabe kahayu Bemba (Zambian) – Ninkutemwa saana we chisa nkonde Bhojpuri – Ham aap say pyar…
The Google online dictionary has one definition of relationship as: “a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection)”. Sadly, instead of a relationship, too many of us live in something that is more like a “relation-dinghy”! (A dinghy is a small, open rowboat or inflatable raft.) At the first heavy weather or big…
Growing up I think I always felt a little starved for attention. In my family there were five children and I was the middle (older brother, older sister, me, younger sister, younger brother). My Dad was an alcoholic, which kept a lot of everyone’s attention on him, and on the drama that was my parents’…
Occasionally I’m invited to speak to high school kids about sex and sexuality. I love it. Usually the kids have a fairly good understanding of the basics of reproduction – men have seed (sperm) which they deposit in women, conception occurs when seed fertilizes egg, etc. What they lack is good solid information about sex,…
Whoever has the problem, has the solution. What you find hard to say, you must say. Instead of arguing or debating, reflect your partner’s feelings back to him or her. Talk is very important. Loving, intimate touch is often more important than talk. Great relationships require time investment. Practice surrender. Find out what your partner…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 