We lie in bed, feeling separate, alone. Each of us wants it to be different, but neither makes the move to start. How can we reach each other through all this history? How did it come to this? When we met, there was a spark. Maybe it was chemistry? We enjoyed each other’s company. We…
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“I could feel the tears within me, undiscovered and untouched in their inland sea. Those tears had been with me always. I thought that, at birth, American men are allotted just as many tears as American women. But because we are forbidden to shed them, we die long before women do, with our hearts exploding…
I promise to listen to you. I promise to tell you the truth. I promise to always make time for us. I promise to choose being in love over being right. I promise to say both the hard stuff and the easy stuff. I promise to look for the joy in our relationship. I promise…
I’ve been reading a lot on the subject of evolution, especially regarding human sexuality. As I understand it everything in the Universe is in a constant state of change. Physicists and biologists have posited that this change appears to move in the direction from simple to complex. In other words, over time, everything is evolving,…
In my memories, my relationship with my father was always tempestuous. I am the third (middle) of his five offspring, the second of three boys. Dad was a drunk. I used to say he was an alcoholic, but it always felt like I was trying to prettify something that wasn’t pretty and didn’t deserve the…
A friend recently referred to something she’d read that claimed, on average, men think about sex once every 23 seconds (or something like that). I went looking online to see if there was any research to support this claim and found that Snopes.com thinks it’s an urban legend. The Kinsey Institute studies such things and…
What is Shame? Where does it come from? Why do we feel it? How can I free myself from the paralyzing effect of my shame? Let’s start with some defining. Shame is an emotion (or feeling), and emotions are fundamentally not rational, that is to say, not derived from logic or reasoning. While thoughts may…
As a Relationship Counselor/Coach and workshop leader, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples in their fifties and sixties who are struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives. When we are young, sexually active adults, we tend to take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections…
I teach sexuality, intimacy and love for a living – in workshops, in private coaching sessions, online with my blog and podcast, and at various trainings and events. And, I am a divorced, dating Dad. Getting back into the dating world after a relationship breakup seemed overwhelming at first. Trying to meet people, having the…
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Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 