Perhaps the most common source of anger is our own inability to love ourselves, our self-hate. Most of us have a deep self-hatred that we created in childhood. We use much of our adult energy trying to run from or hide from or cover over these feeling of low self-esteem or low self-worth. The source…
Monthly Archives: March 2012
Anger may unavoidable, but how can I make it less devastating? How can I cope with my anger? How can I cope with your anger? How can I cope with your anger when you direct it at me? Coping with anger is simple…but not necessarily easy. Like most things, it takes trust, some practice, and some learning. And, the better you get…
Everyone experiences anger at one time or another. It’s not just human, it’s mammal — if you own a pet dog or cat or horse you’ve likely seen your pet get angry (at you or at another animal or, perhaps, at a visit to the vet). Even though anger is a natural, normal emotional experience,…
I can’t solve my partner’s problems. Even if I’m sure I know what they should do. And my partner can’t solve my problems, no matter how much I wish they could. Can you notice the ways you try to get your partner to “fix” you? Are you aware of the times your partner is making…
As a Couples Intimacy Coach, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples struggling with unsatisfactory sex lives, many in their fifties and sixties. As young, sexually active adults, we take for granted that feelings of arousal will be accompanied by tumescence (the swelling of genital tissues), erections (nipples, clitoris, penis) and lubrication. In…
Intimacy, Relationship, Life Counseling 